Why I work with Mums
I love being a Mum, but...
Being a mum is hard.
Being a mum is undervalued.
You don’t get holidays from being a Mum or even a lunchbreak. Occasionally you manage to go to the bathroom on your own.
As a Mum you are responsible for the next generation of humans.
Not only do you need to keep them alive, fed and watered but you are meant to help them reach their potential and keep their delicate emotions balanced and thriving.
Children need discipline, but not too much. They need to stand out but also to blend in. They need to be popular but not mean, a team player and also a shining star. You need to train them to be kind, considerate but also driven and intelligent. They should be academic and musical, sporty and artistic.
The children should be happy, to do as they’re told but also to be individual and unique. You need to teach them to thrive in school, work and society.
Being a Mum does not come with an instruction manual. You might get training on birth itself, which could last anywhere from a few seconds to a few days. You don’t get any training on what to do every day for the rest of your life.
As a Mum raising children is not your only task. Many Mums also have a paid job. Employers expect you to give everything to your job, just as you did before you had children. At work you can sometimes drink a cup of tea in peace and perhaps have a grown-up conversation. But at work you are feeling guilty about not being at home. When you are at home you are feeling guilty about not being at work.
If you do not do paid work, you rarely get a break from the kids and you don’t get paid. Your other half (if you have one) may have no idea how hard your day has been. You know you should do more to develop your child's speech, intellect and emotional intelligence but you just want one moment to yourself. You crave a few seconds of peace and quiet to remember that you existed before being a Mum.
I have done both. Both are hard. When you are at work all the time you miss your kids. When you are at home all the time you miss yourself.
Then there are other caring and household responsibilities, cleaning, tidying, cooking, the list is endless.
Usually you are sleep deprived. Lack of sleep is a method of torture.
When you have your first child, you need to relearn how to do basic tasks like leaving the house.
Once you get used to motherhood, you might have another child. Then the little time you had to yourself is filled with the guilt of ignoring whichever one isn’t shouting loudest.
When children start school the demands multiply. It is reading books on Monday and Wednesday, PE kit on Tuesday and Thursday, homework over the weekend, bring in loo roll tubes this Wednesday, fancy dress next Friday and don’t forget to take in an interesting vegetable for show and tell.
You know your children need to eat vegetables but they found the packet of sweets from the birthday party last week. They are running around ‘singing’ at the top of their voice while hurling themselves off the sofa. You decide on nuggets again. You will only end up cooking them anyway after they launch the broccoli across the kitchen. You will have takeaway after bedtime despite having a fridge full of food.
Your partner gets home in a bad mood. You haven’t done the homework for tomorrow and you need to check your emails, wash the school uniform, and call your Mum. Your daughter produces a crumpled leaflet saying that she needs to dress as a powerful word tomorrow and give money charity. You have no cash.
Surviving one day at a time, one bedtime to the next. Waiting for the weekend. When the weekend arrives, it is harder than the week. The kids are bored, and you wish you had the energy to cook them something healthy. You let them watch their tablets to try so you can try and tidy the kitchen.
I spent my life researching how to help children lose weight and I thought I had the answers. Then I had kids, and everything changed. I had no idea how hard it was being a Mum.
Once I had children I had to work our how to keep myself and my children healthy with so much less time and energy.
I realised that there is so little one-to-one support available for Mums, especially new Mums.
Most diet advice is general and may not work for you. It also isn't tailored to new Mums who may have special dietary requirements. That is why I work individually as everyone is different.
There is so much confusing information about weight loss. I have spent years writing and reading scientific papers and can give you sensible advice that works and I can share the scientific facts behind it. I have published scientific work on weight gain in new Mums and have experience of postnatal weight gain and loss myself.
I know how busy Mums are so we work with your schedule and responsibilities. We focus on reducing your stress as well as your weight so your life feels a little bit lighter too.
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